"Life is like a game of Jenga"

Four different stories I gave you. Four different possible 'setbacks’: Letting go of your kids, Losing your entire ‘fortune’, The death of a loved one and finding Love. I know, it’s just the top of the iceberg. No worries. Every topic will be analysed to the tiniest details. Other topics can be fully discussed. If you’ve got questions, feel free to pop them out in the open! I will always hand you an honest answer, based on my experiences. 

Meanwhile I would like to share a vision. My vision that “Life is like a game of Jenga”.

You know the game? That pile of small little wooden blocks? You need each turn remove a block and put it on top of the tower and make sure it doesn’t collapse. Did you ever play the game? If not … Please do, as soon as possible and just think about your life while playing it! 

That solid base

You start off with a wooden solid tower. Imagine, that tower represents your birth and your childhood. You have your solid base. No need to take decisions. Decisions are made for you anyway! How angry you may be now or were back then, decisions were ‘simply’ made for you. What you would eat. When you had to be home from a night out with friends. The sports or hobbies your parents picked out for you. The clothes you had to wear. Your hairstyle. Your relationship. JUST F… EVERYTHING! 

Be honest. You’ve learned from everything you saw, heard and ‘lived’ at that time. You analysed everything, didn’t you? You little rascal! Things you experienced while being young, had a big impact on your personality today. Maybe your parents’ divorce, or losing people close to you, like your grandparents or best friends. Maybe you were the one they laughed at at school. Maybe moving to another place has made a huge impact on you. But whatever might have happened in the past, it still made you the person you are today. And promise me not to forget: ‘During that time, you had your solid base! …’.

Removing the blocks

The moment you start making your own choices or better ‘decisions’ in life, you start removing blocks from the stack and start building further onto them. Those blocks are no longer needed in your base, but you are using them to build your future on. Experiences, lessons learned. They now have become a part of growing, of building your life and getting the tower as high as possible.

A block you removed could embody a best friend, a relationship, a job, … Just remind yourself that once you’ve removed the block, life gets a tiny little bit unstable. But when you’re building and constantly trust that specific choice you’ve made, you will grow! 

Life IS just all about trust! 

One more important lesson to learn: also trust the company you’re playing your game with (wether professional or personal). They will remove blocks that make you more vulnerable. Choices they make, can shake your life. Sure thing, you can be pissed off … But that’s just how life goes, right? 

Know, at all times, that you can’t do without them. They complete you. You need them. You love them. And still they can have a major impact on your life. Just believe when I say that trust is all you need. They also want their tower to grow as high as possible. They don’t want to thwart you at all. They are a part of your ‘mountain’ as well. They climb that same path of life but to their own needs. And if you have no trust at all, ‘just remove them’ as a simple ‘block’. Collateral damage. Trust your gut, trust the power of your estimation. 

Set the tower back in place

I know. I really do! At one certain point, all your accomplishments will just collapse. The tower will fall. All your dreams will fall apart. It just takes a fraction of a second. You will sigh, you will proclaim it: “Oh no!!!!”. But time after time, you know when it’s coming. As soon as you remove the block, you know you lost the game. You have a that gut feeling. You always know that precise moment when you took that wrong move. But still, you dared to leap!!!

Remember, it was your choice, no one else to blame! No No! It was you who took the leap! You, and only you, took that decision to make a move! Give something to get more in return. Law of survival. Have no regrets! Never ever! 

The fact that your life has been taken down is a blessing. You now know what is delicate. You now have learned more about balance. You will now know what needs to stay into that solid base. No need to whine. It’s too late anyway. You made a choice. You lost, but learned and grew stronger!

Start all over! Set the damn tower back in place! 

That’s what you would do when you had a nice chill evening with friends and family. Get the game started. Start building. See who makes the smartest moves and learn. Learn from your environment. Decide for yourself what you want and what you would never want to cross your path. You will know what block to remove first, after a few games. As in life. You have learned. You will be the expert!

I ALWAYS lived life on my own terms. Sure, I had a huge amount of setbacks, but I always stayed confident, confident in my own decisions. And I embraced the outcome. Time after time. 

We are all winners. Just follow your heart, love and be loved as you too are a winner!

© Vicky Drappier – Dare to leap

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